1.) There is no force, no despair, no hurt from which we cannot pick ourselves up; stand on our own two feet and yell into the gusty wind.
2.) Although none of us would wish to take this route, it is the path we find ourselves on. Even though it is a hard and difficult route it does get easier the farther along we walk.
3.) It really is not so much the path but the journey that matters most and although we would rather not hear it, personal growth occurs when times are tough.
4.) There will come a day when each of us will realize that we have not felt anxiety, despair or longing in quite a while.
5.) We will heal these hurts because it is our nature to survive and thrive.
6.) The quickest way to recover is to think about the future. Where would you want to be in 6 months, 1 year, 2 years? Imagine a future where the things that give you the most trouble are resolved and your goals are achieved. Begin taking baby steps to achieve those goals.
7.) It's not how far forward you travel but the fact that you took a step toward the wonderful future that you want for yourself. Realize that you have made positive changes in your life and reward yourself.
8.) How we choose to live our life is entirely up to us. How much happiness we choose to create for ourselves, how much anger we choose to hold on to, are all determined by the choices we make.
9.) Our breakup is the chance to recreate ourselves anew in whatever form we would see fit. We need to see this as an opportunity to not be held back.
10.) Think of all the things you didn't do because you were with your X even if they were small things like eating somewhere that they didn't enjoy. Then do those things to prove to yourself that you are really free and that you can do whatever you want.
11.) Courage is not about being fearless but about being scared and doing it anyway.
12.) Self empowerment is built through experience, it does not come in a one-lump-sum. Always keep in your mind the things that make you proud about yourself.
13.) Loving ourselves accelerates the healing process and makes us very attractive to future potential partners.
14.) Being able to laugh and have fun by yourself is not impossible. It is also very appealing because a carefree and happy spirit is universally attractive.
15.) The healthiest relationships are not built on the premise that happiness will come solely from the relationship, but that the two people wish to share their own independent happiness with one another.
16.) No one person can be responsible for another's happiness for it is far to great a burden to place upon anyone.
17.) This will get better--it is as inevitable as the changing of late summer to fall.
18.) In time we will come to think back on this period of our lives as a necessary journey--one that we wouldn't want to undo even if we were given the chance. We will be proud of how we got through this and of who we became after having passed through these flames.
19.) Some of us may even come to realize and believe that this event was one of the best things that could have happened to us; that it is a blessing in disguise.
20.) Our next relationship will be a million times better because of the wisdom that this time will impart to us. We are being made into better people for every moment that we endure.
21.) Patience really is a necessary attribute for healing. It can be easy to get discouraged if we have overly aggressive expectations.
22.) All of us will most assuredly find love again.
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