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An Amazing 6 Months - My Update
by Stretch_1970 Hello everyone! I haven't posted on this site in quite a while. I'm sure many of you had wondered if I had fallen off the earth. And to be honest with you there was a time I felt like doing so! For those who don't know my story, I'll put it in a nutshell. For over a year I had been in a long-distance relationship (LDR) with my ex. We met online and almost immediately hit it off, first by internet, then by phone and later in person. She wanted a relationship, and I had hesitated at first. Over time however, I was starting to give in. Being with her I felt loved, like I could be a part of something special. After several months and a couple more visits however, differences began to arise between us. I believed that we could work around them, and she seemed as committed as I was to working things out. Then in December she totally drops the bomb by breaking up with me online (not by phone) and 2 weeks before Christmas....talk about a double whammy that was!! Later on while talking to her she would tell me that her feelings had really changed way back...among other hurtful things. It was a challenge to get through Christmas. Afterwards it was hard to keep NC. At first I would call and talk to her, and each time she was so cold and thoughtless. However in the end it made me more determined to keep NC. So on I went and so did the months. At first it was hard. The pain was unbearable at times, brought on by "reminders" everywhere. I wanted so much to send an IM, to call. But each time I busied myself with something else instead. Over time it got easier to just lose myself in hobbies or pastimes or other events going on in my life and not get down. She even emailed me recently, but I did not respond. I also became determined to get back out and meet other people. I had met a lady at my job, who happened to like a certain club close to where I live. One weekend we had it planned to get together there for a fun-filled evening. On my way there, I was a nervous wreck. I had a lot on my mind. Finding this club. Showing up on time. Trying to make a good impression with her. Wondering where this might lead. When suddenly I realized something....for once the ex was not on my mind! The evening was awesome in that regard alone...not to mention having some fun I had not had in a long time. And from that point on it's been easier to go about my life and rediscover the joys in it. I had made it my goal for 2005 to get back out and explore new opportunities, for joy, for love, for happiness. And I've being doing that ever since. I'm spending more time with family (some I've not seen in many, many years), going out with friends more, meeting new people (and the potential of something great coming out of it). And I'm pursuing my art and photography again. It is amazing how much difference 6 months can make to someone trying to heal from a heartbreak. Right after the breakup I would wake up in the morning and say "I don't want to have to face this day!". Now I wake up and say "It's a great day to be alive!" And instead of dreading to face life, I'm wanting to live every single moment of it. I want to say how thankful I am for being led to this site, for I really believe I was led here. I want to thank everyone who was there to offer comfort and advice. It really helped me to get through this ordeal. And to everybody out there going through the pain and grief of a breakup, I want to say it really does get better. It just takes determination and focusing on the other good things in your life. Realizing that the ex was only part of your life, not your whole life. Stretch Click here to read or respond to Stretch_1970's original post Back to Success Stories | 
