This statement will change as I consider better and better wording for my views. So please afford me some grace as it takes time and effort to create a website.
The focus of this site was intended to be Christian, which as a world view, carrys some interpretation. As we might read the bible or hold lessor respect for the "scriptures" we are challenged to ask life questions about our crossdressing inclinations. Some fit into a category where physiological variants suggest a classification of individuals known as "intersexuals". Again these individuals might have physical gender ambiguities. However complex that manifestation, it was not intended to be addressed on this website.
Rather for the most part, I myself am addressing crossdressing from the perspective that its inclinations represent a masculine wound which prevailed to create an addictive fixation with the fantasy of dressing or being woman-like. A book I'd offer is John Eldridge, Wild at Heart, which speaks of this wound, but not specifically to crossdressing.
The following reflects some ideas I have about crossdressing as we walk with a Holy God.
What about the phrase that goes something like, "God loves us no matter what we wear". Implied in this as I pick it out is that somehow God's love is confused with God's care or God's desires. Yes he loves us or is able and willing to love us no matter what we wear, but I don't think that means that he doesn't care what we wear. He wants the best for us, and if we're putting an idol before him, our Lord I believe both grieves that and is angered by such. Both emotional states can co-exist with love. Analagously, parents love their children simultaneously while being hurt and angered by their mischiveous behavior. I think we can be deceived in thinking that our Lord takes pleasure in our so-called "expression" of crossdressing. That crossdressing is a blast for crossdressers, I think rather points to the exquisite design that God best meant when he separated feminine expression from masculine expression. As women are given the gift "positionally" to express their femininity. Men are given the gift "positionally" to express their masculinity. It isn't a matter of fairness, but rather a matter of design. Crossdressers I submit, having taken a natural childhood curiosity and allowed it to take root wonder then why its so insatiable. Read the biographies of crossdressers on the web, and see the same themes over and over again! We're not special, we're in pain and have found something that deadens that pain, like any addiction. Then over time we've labeled it an art! We're fascinated with the feminine because God knew what he was doing!! Now we need to move on thru our developmental blocks and allow God to have his way. That is grieve the fact that our fascination with things feminine is a childlike fascination and give it up, always yet to appreciate how God's glory is manifest thru his design. Again, move from fixation to praise for him that he knew how to create beauty. This is the thought to keep in mind when you have such urges.
Lastly, don't try to stop crossdressing (at least as a focus), rather work to incorporate other rich elements of life and over time, the urges may lessen. It's the road I'm on and am hopeful for new chapters.
Nevertheless,
Jeff
