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"I don't have any need anymore hope it will come right some time soon" ...a quote from a female encephalitis survivor Your love life. Your very intimate closeness with your partner. How has that changed since encephalitis? This topic has been touched in our Discussion area.... and certainly qualifies to be a Question of the Week! 2/04/2002 Wendy the following is copied from the Discussion area ..... May I suggest... It takes two years for the body to reach a stage where you can measure any final impact of encephalitis. That is..... encephalitis survivors find that their health improves at a remarkable pace for the first year (although, two steps forward, one step backward).... then in the second year, improvements are more gradual. I remember just after the birth of each of my children.... my body and brain were focused on caring for the new baby.... and my love life was ... ah..... not much! When I got encephalitis, my body had a new focus. And that was, self survival as I struggled to understand the new me. I believe that now, your body is focused on caring and improving. Caring for YOURSELF. And it is very possible that your focus minimizes your interest in your own love life. Did mine come back? YES! When? Every person would be different. *blushing* Wendy 2/04/2002 Annette Hiya I agree with Wendy after the first bout, after my husband ,doctor,and Mother convinced me this was the truth lol, I had no memeory ofanything and had to relearn everything and I just didn't believe what they told me about sex it seemed ridiculas to me, but anyways after about a year thing started again and remained that way till the second bout then well things changed i have since been diagnoised with hypersexuality common amoung head injuries as is hyposexuality hypo-lack of hyper is the opposite of hypo can't think of the words. Sexuality changes and head injuries is very common and it can fluccuate. speak to your dr's about it or do what I do write them a note. There are medications that can help either way. Annette blushing nope just writing a note lol 2/04/2002 Effie My husband had HSE almost 14 years ago. He has never had a desire since. He asked me one time if we everhad sex and I told him, "Not lately." He never asked me again. It just isn't there. Doesn't seem to bother him one bit. Can't say the same for me. lol 2/04/2002 Tess Before E I used to enjoy being close to Johan, enjoy being held. Ever since E there is just no desire. This is causing stress. Not only does nothing function as it use to, but I am alway tired and fall asleep in the middel of the "dress rehearsel". I know Johan will not speak to a doctor about this, or blam e me or for that matter forse me to do something I do not want to do - but I know it frustrates him. I understand that one needs to recover true but life goes on and somehow you need to function as usale - bad - I don't like being held close, I dont like people bustling around me. It is difficult to explain I just want to be left alone - I don't feel as a woman anymore, I don't feel beautiful and I ve gained a lot of weight. It is not that I want to care for myself - sometimes I would rather destroy this person I do not know - I think a lot is in my head " emotions" ??? And there is a barrier to over come - but I can't seem to find the barrier. 2/05/2002 hugh betcha This question was directed at those who had love lives "before" and "after" e., and it's a little hard for someone like me (I had e. as a pre-schooler) to weigh in on it. My entire married life (17+ years!), as well as all dating relationships that preceded it, came after the e.; there's no pre-e. life to compare it to. That said, here's my perspective: I've had no problems whatsoever with interest, per se. But I've had a lifelong problem with extreme sleepiness when it gets late at night. Tess, I was glad to read that your husband understands when you doze off...my wife gets REALLY angry. I think he needs to speak to her :-) One surefire solution is to try other times for amorous moments (which is a HUGE challenge when you have kids). While we're on the topic of sleepiness, may I ask those of you who are able to imbibe: do you suspect that having had e. makes one more sensitive to the effects of beer, wine, etc.? Speaking for myself, I drink very little and dislike almost all liquors...but when I do have something, I find that I'm a real lightweight. 2/05/2002 Wendy I think this question will not be complete... without including entries made when the topic was first raised in the Discussion area here... (page 1 of 2) SHAY: Can only respond from my son's case. His loss of appetite is from the zoloft according to his Docs. He has lost quite a lot of weight,due to not wanting to eat.. At first he gained because of steroid treatment. I have heard the doctor tell him that he may expect problems in the sex department, but his wife divorced him early on and he has not been really involved with anyone the past few months. His memory problem has good days & bad ones. This is harder to explain. Sometimes he blows us away with things he can remember and then short term, he does not remember anything. And he has had this amount of trouble for two years now? So WATCH FOR DEPRESSION
and check the MEDS and maybe the members with spouses can answer the sex question.. Shay
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