In the pictures below you can easily see the space between cone and anal opening is vastly different. The space in a male is longer. The distance less in a female.
If you cannot hold your chinchilla very well to sex them. Wrap in a towel to keep legs
and feet tucked out of the way. You will then I am sure find it easier.
Female chinchilla (note hardly any space between cone and anal opening)
male chinchilla more space between
As you will now see it is so easy when you know how.