Codependency
Characteristics of Codependency
A commonly used list of characteristics of codependency.
Donna's Story - Death, Abuse and Recovery
What growing up in an alcoholic family did for Donna.
How the Co-dependency Movement Is Ruining Marriages
From MarriageBuilders, why always putting others' needs first can be bad for your marriage.
I am responsible for...
From Codependent No More by Melody Beattie.
Robin's Story - A Struggling Marriage
Seeking the parental love she never got, Robin discovered early that sex could make her feel good.
Codependency recovery, inner child healing, Joyous Spirituality - Joy to You and Me
"Codependence is a very vicious and powerful form of Delayed Stress Syndrome. . . Codependence is being at war with ourselves - which makes it impossible to trust and Love ourselves. Codependence is denying parts of ourselves so that we do not know who we are. Recovery from the disease of Codependence involves stopping the war within so that we can get in touch with our True Self, so that we can start to Love and trust ourselves."
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"In order to start be-ing in the moment in a healthy, age-appropriate way it is necessary to heal our "inner child." The inner child we need to heal is actually our "inner children" who have been running our lives because we have been unconsciously reacting to life out of the emotional wounds and attitudes, the old tapes, of our childhoods."
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"Codependence deals with the core issues of the human dilemma. Codependence has grown out of the cause from which all symptoms arise. That cause is Spiritual dis-ease: not being at ease, at one with Spiritual Self."
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"We are not sinful, shameful human creatures who have to somehow earn Spirituality. We are Spiritual Beings having a human experience."
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"Codependency is about having a dysfunctional relationship with self! With our own bodies, minds, emotions, and spirits. With our own gender and sexuality. With being human. Because we have dysfunctional relationships internally, we have dysfunctional relationships externally.
We do not have the power to change others - we do have the power to change our relationship with self by healing our codependence/wounded souls, and tuning into Higher Self. We can access the capacity to accept, embrace, forgive, have compassion for, and set boundaries with, all parts of self. By learning to Love our self, we will gain the capacity to Truly Love our neighbor .
Updated Oct. 01, 2004 by Zephyr
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